I have not posted on here for a looooong time, mainly because the alcoholic drama does not exist in my life anymore. Well at least not the active drama.
I am still very much into the idea of recovery. About a month ago, I bought The Courage to Change book, and I am reading it and loving it, not so much because the issue of alcoholism (I divorced in 2015), but because it touches so many different aspects of my life, telling me that it is ok to slow down and love myself and be gentle and kind to myself. It is almost like a how-to-live manual, things that noone ever told me.
But, I discovered something that is rather confusing, and I am wondering if you noticed the same. And I do not know how to put it, but have you noticed in your recovery that your strength, your assertiveness almost serve as a repellent? Since I started applying the Al-Anon life philosophy, it is like all the masks disappeared (this now mainly applies to my family of origin), it is like being honest and genuine really bugs people.
Also, when you try to detach from people and their problems (and let’s say there is no addiction involved), it is almost as if they get insulted when you want to step away (or you do not give them a piece of advice they wanna hear).
I am just really really wondering. Have you noticed this?